This is an excerpt from a CNN news.
Surely you, like me, have heard numerous friends or significant others say something to the effect of, "How could he have cheated on his wife? She's so gorgeous!" Yes, Elin Nordegren is a blonde-haired Swedish former model and her turd husband allegedly still cheated on her.
What I want to know is why we insist a woman's beauty -- which is highly subjective! -- is some kind of barometer -- which is highly shallow! -- of whether or not her hubby will cheat.
Let's get this clear: People cheat because they are unhappy in their relationships. That's it. I'm not naive: I know plenty of people cheat because their paramours have gained weight/lost too much weight and said paramours are no longer an object of physical attraction. But it's an underlying and relatively shallow factor, not cause-and-effect at all.
Most relationships have these little things called "love," "trust" and "respect"; relationships that have all those things don't have cheating. If you really, really love someone, you will deal with the inevitable aging process.
The implication is that Nordegren is too pretty to cheat on and that Tiger's infidelity would make more sense if she were ugly -- but since she's beautiful, there must be something else she did that drove him to do something so insane.
Let's stop insinuating that when a man cheats, it is always because of something the wife did (or didn't do). And that's especially true when we're talking about somebody like Tiger Woods, who appears to have allegedly cheated with a bunch of random cocktail waitresses all over the country. None of them appear to be love matches.
Furthermore, Tiger Woods has plenty of coin to hire a divorce lawyer. If he was/is really unhappy in his marriage to Elin Nordegren, I'm sure plenty of attorneys would jump at the chance to handle his breakup for him. Cheating, as they say, is the coward's way out.
At the end of the day, it is Tiger who allegedly cheated. It is Tiger who allegedly tried to cover up the mobile phone trail. It's Tiger who is at fault, not his beautiful wife.
Surely you, like me, have heard numerous friends or significant others say something to the effect of, "How could he have cheated on his wife? She's so gorgeous!" Yes, Elin Nordegren is a blonde-haired Swedish former model and her turd husband allegedly still cheated on her.
What I want to know is why we insist a woman's beauty -- which is highly subjective! -- is some kind of barometer -- which is highly shallow! -- of whether or not her hubby will cheat.
Let's get this clear: People cheat because they are unhappy in their relationships. That's it. I'm not naive: I know plenty of people cheat because their paramours have gained weight/lost too much weight and said paramours are no longer an object of physical attraction. But it's an underlying and relatively shallow factor, not cause-and-effect at all.
Most relationships have these little things called "love," "trust" and "respect"; relationships that have all those things don't have cheating. If you really, really love someone, you will deal with the inevitable aging process.
The implication is that Nordegren is too pretty to cheat on and that Tiger's infidelity would make more sense if she were ugly -- but since she's beautiful, there must be something else she did that drove him to do something so insane.
Let's stop insinuating that when a man cheats, it is always because of something the wife did (or didn't do). And that's especially true when we're talking about somebody like Tiger Woods, who appears to have allegedly cheated with a bunch of random cocktail waitresses all over the country. None of them appear to be love matches.
Furthermore, Tiger Woods has plenty of coin to hire a divorce lawyer. If he was/is really unhappy in his marriage to Elin Nordegren, I'm sure plenty of attorneys would jump at the chance to handle his breakup for him. Cheating, as they say, is the coward's way out.
At the end of the day, it is Tiger who allegedly cheated. It is Tiger who allegedly tried to cover up the mobile phone trail. It's Tiger who is at fault, not his beautiful wife.
For folks who claim to use technology, you guys re incredibly ignorant of science. Both polygamy and monogamy, as well as sexuality and sexual selection are explained very well by The Theory Of Evolution By Natural Selection. Evolution 'achieves' its 'task' by making sure there are many strategies for species on their on-going struggle to exist. Some strategies may seem contradictory to each other.
ReplyDeleteAs far as CNN goes, they're supposed to be a bunch of smart liberals, but in this report the journalists display a real lack of understanding.
Also relationships differ -- it depends on the agreed contract by 2 parties. Some relationships allow for sexual liasons with other partners. Some religions allow for more than one sexual partner.
Sex can imply love, but not necessarily. Who the hell knows what is going on in the internal world of the other human being. You are trying to read minds and hearts -- sure we all do this, but it is insane at the core.
Sex and love have 'conflated' because of religious morality, social convention...and the artists: poets, authors, painters, sculptors and composers. Modern day visual artists like film makers, game designers, photographers and mass media who stay in business because they offer HOPE of a PERFECT REALITY -- all with perfect, attractive people all living perfect 'high value' lifestyles.
Fantasy -- everyone likes it. Everyone, at some level, indulges in fantasy. Why not use the imagination you already have?
I wouldn't presume to know the exact reasons why spouses cheat on each other, but as human beings we all 'cheat' sometime to get 'more bang for our buck' -- whether we are negotiating a lower price to getting additional 'freebies' in a deal...cheating is a way we get more for less.
All life and about life is probabilistic -- think 'lottery'. Will you get 'stuck' with the partner that has a genetic propensity (evolutionary advantage) toward polyamory/ polygamy? Or will you yourself have the genetic advantage to attract a monogamous 'nester'?
Good luck to you, whatever your preferences.
The quality of your pictures all suck big time, please invest in canon 1Ds Mark4 and 800mm lens.
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